09 March 2008

One month past...

It has been one month since we officially started our commitment of life: Engagement Proposal. This past thirty some days had been one of the busiest time of our lives. However much rambled each day was, we both have a common goal which focuses our attention, mentality, spirituality, and integrity... Our Marriage Project.

One of the project item was creating this blog. Others, which we slowly share to our friends through this blog; all take much time, efforts, research, discussion, think-together, agreement, disagreement, tolerance, acceptance, and finally confirmation. Each step we made has been very time consuming, but very fulfilling. Each topic we discuss make ourselves closer, and this is a good thing since we get to know each others' tone, value, thoughts, interest, focal point, careabouts..... Having these discussions is very valuable for us. This is the chance we decided to take in order to accomplish a common goal, but at the same time learn each other as a side effect.

Today, we had another random conversation and we felt it is very important to "realise". The busy days keep us focused into the details and arrangements, and tend to take for granted of lots of things. This busy-ness takes our focus from the realisation of both of ourselve's existence and preciousness. However, the realising that all of what we do is because we exists, makes ourselves precious and valuable. Without this "realisation", everything becomes so "ordinary" and our actions are taken for granted. This is a pithole of a longlasting happy relationship...

So, we both agreed to "realise" from time to time; and take a timeout from our busy busy daily lives and "realise" in ourselves. We both felt good about this.

We have a long life ahead of us, but we feel these discussions are making a very solid foundation of whatever we build on top of it. We feel good to have discussed about this "realisation".
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Carol said...

"Time flies" is never adequate to discribe..."Time rockets" when we are together!!

30 days...? I feel as if it's already 1 year...the amount of hard work, intensity of our conversation, etc.

I think both of us have a tendency to seek perfection, and therefore, overwork and too focused into details sometimes. We turn ourselves very serious when it's about work & procedures, and dilute all passonate emotion.

I was surprised to realise how little I said a sweety words to you recently...>< gomen nya.

But it was good we were able to take a timeout & discuss about it!

I remember a elderly once told me, "Love is not just a vigorous fire, but the warm of the ash that remains". Which is exactly your idea of "onsen break" that I can't agree more!!!

We both wear hats other than just husband/wife. We both need to concentrate to other "moments", either it's work or family.

Let's give each other the space to accomplish what is required of you.

Let's remind each other to share & update when a small isolation is forming.

Let's share success when thing is accomplished.

We are always in one. We are so dependent on each other...either it's happiness or frustration.

Let's stay alert of this characteristic of our relationship. Reflect, discuss, sediment. Together, we can make ourselves better individual & of course, in one.

March 10, 2008 at 11:49 PM
jintak said...

You're very correct, chan. I think you made a good point about the "hats". We wear many hats, but one thing we need to continue "realising" is that the bottomline is that we are man and woman who loves each other. We are sometimes workers of a company. Soon, we will become husband and wife. Furthermore, we will become father and mother. There will be lots of responsibilities and obligations we need to accomplish.

However, we need to keep the integrity, realise that "I love you" from time to time.

It doesn't matter if it's a walk down the street or onsen trip. It may be a Macau trip or a gourmet dinner. The main point is that we take time to timeout and appreciate each other for loving each other.

I really am looking forward for the upcoming years of enjoyment with you. Let's spend the time wisely so that we don't spend it so fast nya.

March 11, 2008 at 12:32 AM

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